YOU’RE NOT like all the other guys. You’re different. You’re deep. These are some phrases that you will have heard more than once by the time you turned 20. You know what they mean. It’s not just that you dress with a sense of style and creative flair, or that you stare off into the distance while others around you are jabbering about nonsense. Those are just indicators of your reflective self-awareness and tendency to question things—including yourself.
You have the air of an intellectual—a thinker. Some people find that intriguing, some intimidating, and others may find it pretentious. To that last point, you would say that they don’t understand you. Lacking your deep sensitivity, they’re Philistines. To boot, you hate superficiality; nothing matters more to you than authentic, meaningful conversation. When people do engage you, they’ll discover that you actually are a thinker—you question everything; you are different—you have a unique take on things; you are deep—you have a degree of mental and emotional flexibility that most other men don’t have.
In fact, you might find extreme masculine environments, like some business or work settings, or sporting or old boys’ clubs, quite challenging. Your less aggressive and more reflective style may be viewed by some men as “soft”, and you’ll have to prove yourself to gain respect.
If you’re not an actual writer, artist, musician, or creative, you’ll still look like one.
Your yearning and questioning can lead you off into a state of reverie, which means you can easily tune out of your social set-ting, and run the risk of seeming “distant”. People close to you may take this personally at first, however, they’ll soon learn that you generally bounce back. If you have a creative outlet, like poetry or painting, they’ll see that these phases usually precede, and almost seem necessary to, your periods of creative output.
If you’re not an actual writer, artist, musician, or creative, you’ll still look like one. If you’ve pursued a more conventional professional path—lawyer, actuary, accountant—you’ll be the one with some off-beat touches to your dress style. These will most likely hark back to your student days, when you were still free to express your creative side: a bracelet, a tattoo, crazy shirts, long hair, a man bun.
Of course, many young men will try out things like that when they’re young, and not all are true creatives. Proof that you are this type of man will lie in the fact that you still harbor secret aspirations to get published, or start a business in a creative field, or at least apply your skills in a more meaningful way. Your friends will hear you share these dreams, with passion and longing, late at night after a few drinks, when the conversation has become deep and meaningful, largely thanks to you.
Your journey through the fours stages of maturity (find out more in your report):
Red (Rebelling; 16-25): The Seeker
A rebel in search of meaning
White (Complying; 26-35): The Creative
A white knight full of longing—and, hopefully, talent
Grey (Integrating; 36-55): The True Original
A grey man who knows what that means
Black (Integrated; 56+): The Master
A wise man who is a wise man
Below are some real-life and fictional examples of this type of man that you might relate to.
Yes, I hate to admit it, but I fit with this bunch, tell me more!
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